Weekend Thoughts

I'm not sure what to call her yet so we'll just call her my Blue Bird who Likes Lists Girlfriend. We went to Memphis this past weekend to see Wicked, the musical based on Gregory Maguire's book Wicked. It's the story about the Wicked Witch of the West from the The Wizard of Oz. When I read the book a couple years ago, I totally fell in love with Elphaba. That's her name. She was an idealist and a dreamer. One who wants good for all and is totally uncompromising with her moral standards. Almost to a fault. But how can someone who enforces their moral standards be called faulty? Anyhooz, there's one song sung by the Wizard that goes like this:

A man's called a traitor - or liberator
A rich man's a thief - or philanthropist
Is one a crusader - or ruthless invader?
It's all in which label
Is able to persist
There are precious few at ease
With moral ambiguities
So we act as though they don't exist

And it's so true. We always have to have good guys and bad guys. It takes so much effort to actually think about every one's situation and truly discover who was in the wrong, if anyone was, that we are quick to label someone simply in order to put our own minds at ease. Often the case is that we haven't taken the time to hear both sides of the story or we convince ourselves that we don't care or that our first instinct is right. That's bullshit. And we know it. Slow down a little bit. Wait for the truth to come out. Investigate. Ask all the questions and let the answers come on their own accord. Don't force some one's confession. Look at the evidence. Even the seemingly insignificant parts. If the desire is Truth then it's worth waiting for. And here at HtKtSooYE, the desire is Truth. All of it. Even the painful stuff. We're going to deal with it.

Don't judge someone out of haste. Relax. Have a drink. And a smoke. Breathe. And finally when the Truth comes oozing out of the cracks, hold your cup there until it's full and take a sip. It might bite back at first but you may learn to live with it. You'll have to. The Truth does not compromise. It does not conform. It simply Is. Embrace it.